Heartbroken

Lala

Lala

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I know I’m an emotional poster who over shares but that’s just me.
My beautiful friend of 39 years has taken her own life today.
I am utterly devastated, for her and he family. I held her hand and tried to rationalise her thoughts with her in the last few weeks, but just couldn’t get through.

She had never suffered mentally until last month, some strange trigger brought on a huge anxiety and panic reaction that she struggled to cope with day in day out for the last few weeks.

She leaves behind a husband and two beautiful adult children.

I love you my friend Liz, you were a beautiful kind lady and wonderful mum.

RIP my best friend.

Look after those you love guys, and yourself ,always 🙁🌹 x
 
Lala said:
I know I’m an emotional poster who over shares but that’s just me.
My beautiful friend of 39 years has taken her own life today.
I am utterly devastated, for her and he family. I held her hand and tried to rationalise her thoughts with her in the last few weeks, but just couldn’t get through.

She had never suffered mentally until last month, some strange trigger brought on a huge anxiety and panic reaction that she struggled to cope with day in day out for the last few weeks.

She leaves behind a husband and two beautiful adult children.

I love you my friend Liz, you were a beautiful kind lady and wonderful mum.

RIP my best friend.

Look after those you love guys, and yourself ,always 🙁🌹 x
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That's absolutely awful news. Sometimes sadly there's nothing more you could have done, but you still think there could have been. My heart goes out to you as her friend & the poor family. Life can be very cruel. So sad.
 
Sooty59 said:
That's absolutely awful news. Sometimes sadly there's nothing more you could have done, but you still think there could have been. My heart goes out to you as her friend & the poor family. Life can be very cruel. So sad.
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Thanks Sooty, I do wonder what more I could have done, but I really really tried my best.
I don’t understand life sometimes, but I think there is a certain danger about trying to understand it , because that opens up more questions and anxiety than being oblivious does.

Thank you again.

And rest in peace my beautiful friend xx
 
Very sad Lala.
I lost a close friend several years ago.
He couldn't handle the breakdown of a long term relationship. Like you I tried to talk him round.
Hope you & her close family eventually pull through after what must be an awful time.
 
Take care of yourself Lala. I lost 2 friends during lockdown last year to suicide a NF d it really hurts.
Both were confident men with no history of depression or mental illness.

You go through all the questions in your head of did you see the signs, what could you have done, and it’s awful.

Be good to yourself
 
I’m so sorry to hear this very sad news about your friend, what a very cruel and tragic illness mental health can be. You take care now.
 
Lala said:
I know I’m an emotional poster who over shares but that’s just me.
My beautiful friend of 39 years has taken her own life today.
I am utterly devastated, for her and he family. I held her hand and tried to rationalise her thoughts with her in the last few weeks, but just couldn’t get through.

She had never suffered mentally until last month, some strange trigger brought on a huge anxiety and panic reaction that she struggled to cope with day in day out for the last few weeks.

She leaves behind a husband and two beautiful adult children.

I love you my friend Liz, you were a beautiful kind lady and wonderful mum.

RIP my best friend.

Look after those you love guys, and yourself ,always 🙁🌹 x
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You're not over emotional, your someone who share things honestly and generously and for that, you are highly regarded.

That is a devastating post and I am truly sorry to read it. You cannot rationalise this shit. It's truly heartbreaking.

Thoughts with you x
 
That's terrible terrible news and somewhat puts Football into perspective.

Thinking of you and your friend x

RIP
 
Thank you all. Didn’t know what to do with my thoughts last night so just put it out there as if to make sense of it somehow.

The air and mood feels different today, even the white noise seems eerie.

I have my beautiful girls to cherish and will be spending the afternoon with them. They knew Liz too and one of the things she said to me last week was how much she loves the way we wrap our arms around each other as a family unit when one of us needs support.

Anyway, I won’t use this is a personal counselling session, I just needed it out.

Sad for those of you with similar experiences. It’s a beautiful yet utterly cruel world so sometimes.

Love to all and thank you so much 🌹🌹
 
So sorry to hear that Karen. 💔

My wife’s tenant took her own life just a couple of weeks ago she was just 35 and had a 5 year old daughter, it’s just terrible.

Mental health effects 1 in 3 people and most tend to hide it so cannot get help.

The 3 guys currently walking the country are doing a fantastic job in highlighting mental health. 👍
 
Sometimes it’s impossible to know what’s truly going on in the hearts & minds of others - even those we think we know well.

For now, let the tears flow & in time I hope you’re able to find some strength & comfort in knowing that you did all that could be done & that you were there for your friend in her time of need. I’m sure she knew that too.

With sincere condolences to you & all affected by this tragedy.
 
Awful news Lala. My uncle took his own life and it devastated us all. We still ask ourselves ‘why’ over 35 years later…. Take care Lala and sincere condolences
 
My best mate killed himself 30 years ago and I still think most days could I have done anything different.

The bottom line is that some people get themselves in such a place that there is literally nothing anyone can do.

Look after yourself, and know that people care, as some solace.

My very deepest condolences.
 
So very sad to hear your tragic news Lala, I know what this is like it's more than you want take in.
You must stay strong and surround yourself with your family.
 
Tangerian said:
Lala, Liz was my sister in law and I have shown your post to my wife and she just wants me to thank you for kind thoughts at this difficult time.
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Oh I’m so terribly terribly sorry. If you are possibly Helen’s husband then please send her all of my love.
It’s Karen, and I know how hard this has been for all of you recently.
Heartbroken today ❤️ All of my deepest love and condolences to you all xxxxx
 
So so sorry Lala to hear of this terrible news. Pass on our deepest sympathies and condolences to her family. Such a young age
Tragic ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
 
Lala said:
Oh I’m so terribly terribly sorry. If you are possibly Helen’s husband then please send her all of my love.
It’s Karen, and I know how hard this has been for all of you recently.
Heartbroken today ❤️ All of my deepest love and condolences to you all xxxxx
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Karen, again thank you for your kind thoughts.
I'm Pat's husband and have passed on your love to her.
Please try to stay strong and take care. Xx
 
Sad news Lala, I'm not unfamiliar with that situation my sons have lost three friends taking their own life. A terrible frame of mind to be in.
 
Tangerian said:
Karen, again thank you for your kind thoughts.
I'm Pat's husband and have passed on your love to her.
Please try to stay strong and take care. Xx
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Oh bless you, and lots of love to Pat. She talked so much about her sisters whenever we were together ❤️ Take care too xxx
 
Lala said:
Thank you all. Didn’t know what to do with my thoughts last night so just put it out there as if to make sense of it somehow.

The air and mood feels different today, even the white noise seems eerie.

I have my beautiful girls to cherish and will be spending the afternoon with them. They knew Liz too and one of the things she said to me last week was how much she loves the way we wrap our arms around each other as a family unit when one of us needs support.

Anyway, I won’t use this is a personal counselling session, I just needed it out.

Sad for those of you with similar experiences. It’s a beautiful yet utterly cruel world so sometimes.

Love to all and thank you so much 🌹🌹
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That's what this forum is for. Support and we all care really and have a common interest.

Sorry to hear your news Lala. I hope you don't blame yourself.
 
Desperately sad and so many in a mental health melt down currently with not the right help available. When I was going through shit I quit my corporate job, turned to meditation with help from a friend and cut off all needless people, all media shit, surrounded myself with family and people who really mattered to me and started a business doing what I wanted to do.
Now I can trust everyone in my circle implicitly, love waking up in a morning and life is awesome.
For anyone struggling evaluate whats important to you, try something new to help you relax and don’t be afraid to take the leap out of your comfort zone and do what makes you happy. Don’t let others rule you or tell you what to do.
 
Oh, Lala.
That’s dreadful. You have all our sympathies, especially to your friends family. Please do not, in any way take on blame. Use a professional counsellor if necessary.
 
Dreadfull news LALA hope you your familly and friends family manage to cope with this situation and loss Remember there's a big Tangerine family to help if we can
 
Lala said:
I know I’m an emotional poster who over shares but that’s just me.
My beautiful friend of 39 years has taken her own life today.
I am utterly devastated, for her and he family. I held her hand and tried to rationalise her thoughts with her in the last few weeks, but just couldn’t get through.

She had never suffered mentally until last month, some strange trigger brought on a huge anxiety and panic reaction that she struggled to cope with day in day out for the last few weeks.

She leaves behind a husband and two beautiful adult children.

I love you my friend Liz, you were a beautiful kind lady and wonderful mum.

RIP my best friend.

Look after those you love guys, and yourself ,always 🙁🌹 x
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Very sorry for your loss
Have had 2 close relatives die myself this year within 18 days 🥺💔
 
Lala said:
I know I’m an emotional poster who over shares but that’s just me.
My beautiful friend of 39 years has taken her own life today.
I am utterly devastated, for her and he family. I held her hand and tried to rationalise her thoughts with her in the last few weeks, but just couldn’t get through.

She had never suffered mentally until last month, some strange trigger brought on a huge anxiety and panic reaction that she struggled to cope with day in day out for the last few weeks.

She leaves behind a husband and two beautiful adult children.

I love you my friend Liz, you were a beautiful kind lady and wonderful mum.

RIP my best friend.

Look after those you love guys, and yourself ,always 🙁🌹 x
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That is awful @Lala

For what it's worth, Liz knew you loved her but there are times, when love just isn't enough.

It's going to be hard, but I hope you can find comfort in the fact that you were there, you listened and you cared.

Look after yourself.
 
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