26 long years RIP dad and UTMP

Thanks Satw, a lovely post especially as you knew him ❤
It is a terrible illness and as you say asking for help is always paramount. That’s probably why it tends to affect you fellas more, you need to speak up.
Glad your dark moments have passed, we get one shot at this life and the devastation left behind is simply gross.
But onwards and upwards and thanks for taking the time to post 😍
And yes there’s another lasting piece of him around, me !!! X

Yeah - obviously there's more than just a 'bricks and mortar' legacy!
 
Very sorry to read this and resonates with me after my best mate and mentor took his own life some years ago,after a run of severe depression that I never saw coming. All of a sudden he stopped coming out for a pint then next I heard he'd gone.
RIP your dad Lala and old pal Dave Drinkwater-played at the top local level and also had trials for the Seasiders when Suddick and co were there.
 
Very sorry to read this and resonates with me after my best mate and mentor took his own life some years ago,after a run of severe depression that I never saw coming. All of a sudden he stopped coming out for a pint then next I heard he'd gone.
RIP your dad Lala and old pal Dave Drinkwater-played at the top local level and also had trials for the Seasiders when Suddick and co were there.
RIP Dave Drinkwater 😔
 
Lala, for those who have never suffered with stress/anxiety/ depression they could never understand how powerful, dreadful, Black and all encompassing it is (through no fault of their own I hasten to add) but mental health is so much more important than physical health. When I was suffering badly I would have willingly swapped an arm or a leg for my mind to be at peace.....thankfully for me it was a period of time caused by factors, not a permanent genetic disposition

I am sorry to hear about your old fella and it must have been far far beyond awful for you....go easy Lala and be kind to yourself
 
My Dad died 6 years ago . One of the comforting things I've found is him occasionally being in my dreams. Only this week I took my daughter up to his grave for an unscheduled visit, it's normally just birthdays and anniversarys. Anyway that night I had lovely dream of just him and me spending time together. It seemed very real and didn't upset me when I woke up , I was grateful for it. I might even go up to the grave again this weekend now 😊
You come across as a really nice person on here Lala and I'm sure your Dad would be very proud of you.
 
LaLa what a heart rending story. I think you can take some comfort from the fact that you have a Tangerine family on this board, who can be virtual uncles aunts or just friends, and who will always listen and comfort you as required. What a shame your Dad didn't see what is transpiring at Bloomfield Road. Look after yourself a Nd I'll send some big hugs from Yorkshire. I hope that doesn't sound creepy. 🙂
 
Only just seen this thread. Lala you bring out the best in many on here with your kindness ,thoughtfulness, sensitivity and moving life experiences.

Bless you Karen, we are all so much better off on this site for the warmth and humanity as well as the interesting and honest topics you often bring to to this all too often antagonistic, testosterone fuelled site. Thanks for your many lovely contributions.

In these Covid distorted times when we can`t even embrace our nearest and dearest we can at least communicate with you on here and I send you a warm and sincere, if virtual, compassionate embrace to ease your pain and hope it might just help a little.x
 
38 years ago on Sept 17th. I lost my mum to suicide. It has been said that time is a great healer. In circumstances where suicide is concerned it takes a very long time. Having said that I do now live quite happily. UTMP.
 
38 years ago on Sept 17th. I lost my mum to suicide. It has been said that time is a great healer. In circumstances where suicide is concerned it takes a very long time. Having said that I do now live quite happily. UTMP.
Glad you are living quite happily now ❤️
 
LaLa, was he any relation to John Hogarth who lived on Gorton St?
Yes Dave, that was his older brother. He developed dementia soon after my dad died, it affected him quite badly and he passed away in early 2000’s.
My dad grew up on Gorton street as his dad my grandad was a railway guard who moved down from Carlisle before the war.
You knew him then ?
 
LaLa, Johnny Hogarth was a good friend of mine. I worked as a PO Messenger (Telegram Boy) with Johnny.
Great guy, he was a Postman after he did his National Service, like me.
Obviously lost track when I went to work in Manchester in 1957, but probably saw him when I came back in 1960.
My sister lived on Gorton St for a few years. Same side as John, No. 41.
My Dad was a postman as well, so knew Johnny.
Small world eh?
John was older than I by a couple of years. He was a good snooker player and I played him many times.
 
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LaLa, Johnny Hogarth was a good friend of mine. I worked as a PO Messenger (Telegram Boy) with Johnny.
Great guy, he was a Postman after he did his National Service, like me.
Obviously lost track when I went to work in Manchester in 1957, but probably saw him when I came back in 1960.
My sister lived on Gorton St for a few years. Same side as John, No. 41.
My Dad was a postman as well, so knew Johnny.
Small world eh?
John was older than I by a couple of years. He was a good snooker player and I played him many times.
Yes, you mean John as we knew him Jack !!! He was an excellent snooker player and seemed to win a turkey every year at the PO Christmas snooker competition and used to give it to my dad for our Christmas dinner!
I was talking a about his other brother Alan previously, I knew one of them was actually called John 🥴 Alan was a train driver.
John, or Jack as we knew him died in 1997 3 years after my dad. We think it affected both his brothers on some level as my dad was the youngest of the 3 boys.
Small world Dave, nice to make connections 😍
And my dad was actually George and not Eric 🤣 I seem to come from a family that names their kids one thing but calls them another, just to keep us on our toes maybe 🤔
But I am definitely Karen 😆
 
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