O/T: Terms of endearment...

td53

td53

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Words people say warmly. Like 'ta love' or 'thanks duck'

I once had a girlfriend from Adlington who used to say 'ta, chatch' and my nan used to called me 'chicken'
 
If I'm talking to females I'll use pet or petal, sweet or sweetheart but with the advent of snowflakes and people who always take things the wrong way I use very few terms of endearment unless I actually know the woman well.
 
Seems like the modern parlance is "babe"? Millenials seem to throw it around like confetti and it can be gender fluid too!
 
Wizzerboy said:
with the advent of snowflakes and people who always take things the wrong way I use very few terms of endearment unless I actually know the woman well.
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I'm not sure anyone actually does get offended, other than in poorly written articles trying to stir up some ill feeling towards others.
You know, like the stories about christmas being banned, never actually happens, but The Sun and Daily Mail love reporting about it.
 
Wizzerboy said:
If I'm talking to females I'll use pet or petal, sweet or sweetheart but with the advent of snowflakes and people who always take things the wrong way I use very few terms of endearment unless I actually know the woman well.
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Certainly not a criticism Wizzer but that's rather sad really.

You've got to mind what you say despite no doubt never speaking in anything other than a kind manner all your life.
 
BlackpoolsFinest said:
I'm not sure anyone actually does get offended, other than in poorly written articles trying to stir up some ill feeling towards others.
You know, like the stories about christmas being banned, never actually happens, but The Sun and Daily Mail love reporting about it.
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I hear what you say Finest but only the other day a lady - old not young - was moaning to me that a bus driver had referred to her as "love".
 
td53 said:
My grandad used to call women 'flowerpot'
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I use the term 'Flower' or 'Flowerpot' quite a lot to women & my daughters / granddaughters.

Wife is from Lincolnshire and they use the term 'Babby'
 
I suppose that you should watch what you say , but if I'm in a shop and the assistant finishes helping me I'll nearly always, through habit say " thanks sweet"
I'm not trying to tap off with them or get fresh, I'm just trying to be friendly.

TBH the only time I have had trouble with someone was when I called someone pet whilst discussing finishing paying my mortgage.
"I most certainly am not your pet" she scolded. After apologising, I retorted, you're not helping either so go and get the organ grinder as I'm sick of talking to the monkey.

On the whole though I do try and be friendly with people 😏
 
Wizzerboy said:
I suppose that you should watch what you say , but if I'm in a shop and the assistant finishes helping me I'll nearly always, through habit say " thanks sweet"
I'm not trying to tap off with them or get fresh, I'm just trying to be friendly.

TBH the only time I have had trouble with someone was when I called someone pet whilst discussing finishing paying my mortgage.
"I most certainly am not your pet" she scolded. After apologising, I retorted, you're not helping either so go and get the organ grinder as I'm sick of talking to the monkey.

On the whole though I do try and be friendly with people 😏
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Of course you do, as do 99.9% of the population and it's a crying that people are being encouraged to make a deal out of nothing.

Many of those who moan know full well that they are innocent terms of endearment but they are being given out by the usual suspects.
 
It's a difficult situation these days,Im not offended by sweetheart,love or petal,or anything else,and it's all got a bit out of hand I think,more by people of my own gender claiming feminism #metoo and anything else they claim to be offended by just to fit in, I just take it as a compliment
 
When I worked in Stoke, I was proper confused when a big burly bus driver asked me (who at the time was rocking a distinctly unfeminine pre bald skinhead look)

"Where to duck?"

Way ahead with the gender neutral shiz in the Potteries
 
As I left Tesco this lunchtime the lady at checkout said TA RA LOVE, I nearly fainted as I hadn't heard that for some time, had to smile and refrain from saying what has become the parting shot in recent months, SEE YOU LATER.
 
Had someone in the shop up here over the summer, calling her kid "chicken". Turned out they were from Poulton. Had a spell in my life where I was very correct and never used all these words, now I think they are mostly our local language and should be cherished. Duck from the East Midlands, Pal from Glasgow, love from our part of the world, my lover from Devon, Chuck from Manchester.
 
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