Parental advice?

I was lucky I never had such a problem. He played football throughout the winter and cricket all summer so “needed” his Dad. Had friends who were not as fortunate but their sons soon realised “ the old man’s not so bad after all”
 
Yeah...another vote for 18/19 years old. When my youngest lad was 13 to 15 I came to the conclusion that my youngest and I would probably be estranged for the rest of my life. Saved his worst behaviour for home, caused big problems between my wife and I regarding parental decisions, came close to physically fighting with him (although he was already bigger and stronger ☹). He appeared to hate everything about me. Still can't believe how rude and disrespectful he was.
5 years later I actually now have more conversation with him than his older 2 siblings. There is light at the end of the tunnel, Limechase👍
My main advice would be to try to ignore him when he's being obnoxious, however difficult...
 
BlackpoolWolves said:
Yeah...another vote for 18/19 years old. When my youngest lad was 13 to 15 I came to the conclusion that my youngest and I would probably be estranged for the rest of my life. Saved his worst behaviour for home, caused big problems between my wife and I regarding parental decisions, came close to physically fighting with him (although he was already bigger and stronger ☹). He appeared to hate everything about me. Still can't believe how rude and disrespectful he was.
5 years later I actually now have more conversation with him than his older 2 siblings. There is light at the end of the tunnel, Limechase👍
My main advice would be to try to ignore him when he's being obnoxious, however difficult...
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Thank you!!!
 
Lala said:
About 18/19 if my experience with daughters is anything to go by!
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My two lads never put a foot wrong. My daughter on the other hand - was a nightmare the minute she discovered make-up and lads. She still holds the record for detentions in a year at St. Mary’s. Got pregnant at 16, and as a single dad bringing them up alone for the previous few years, thought it was the end of the world. Turned out it was the best thing that ever happened - kicked partying into touch, realised a lot of her ‘mates’ were arseholes and became the best mum and person you could wish to meet.
He’ll come back to you, but I know what you’re going through. Stick to doing the right thing and he’ll come round.
 
The boycott bloody killed me as it was the one thing we both had in common our love for BFC then we hardly spent any time together.
So my advice would be if you can find an interest together your quids in.
 
Johnno said:
My two lads never put a foot wrong. My daughter on the other hand - was a nightmare the minute she discovered make-up and lads. She still holds the record for detentions in a year at St. Mary’s. Got pregnant at 16, and as a single dad bringing them up alone for the previous few years, thought it was the end of the world. Turned out it was the best thing that ever happened - kicked partying into touch, realised a lot of her ‘mates’ were arseholes and became the best mum and person you could wish to meet.
He’ll come back to you, but I know what you’re going through. Stick to doing the right thing and he’ll come round.
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I had similar Johnno. Well done you on the single parenting and doing such a great job 👍 It’s hard bloody work on every level.
 
Never had a problem with my boy at 14.
Always been a credit to us.
Worrying the fuck out of us now,diagnosed with Covid and his immune system is not the best.
The boy is the father of the man😁😢
 
Don't spoil him, get him to do some jobs to earn some some rewards and know the value of things or get a part time job when they can (introduces them to responsibilty and team work and matures them), encoursge some family time (inside and out) rather than time purely on the phone / internet / with other feral youths. 3 of my 4 havev left home, boys tend to hang around longer than girls. That is part of independence when they become adults
 
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