Heartbroken

TSSeasider said:
That is awful @Lala

For what it's worth, Liz knew you loved her but there are times, when love just isn't enough.

It's going to be hard, but I hope you can find comfort in the fact that you were there, you listened and you cared.

Look after yourself.
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Thank you. We told each other we loved each other a lot, especially the last few weeks. I know that she knew I did and I’m glad of that.

Love couldn’t make a difference with this one and I can see that too. It did for the odd moment but I know for the the love of god I couldn’t get her past this and it was just too much for her to carry on with.
Such a terrible terrible waste of a life but I understood her struggle too and how much she was trying.
Bloody awful thing anxiety and panic, especially when it’s relentless. The nastiest of the lot of you ask me. ❤️
 
Lala said:
I know I’m an emotional poster who over shares but that’s just me.
My beautiful friend of 39 years has taken her own life today.
I am utterly devastated, for her and he family. I held her hand and tried to rationalise her thoughts with her in the last few weeks, but just couldn’t get through.

She had never suffered mentally until last month, some strange trigger brought on a huge anxiety and panic reaction that she struggled to cope with day in day out for the last few weeks.

She leaves behind a husband and two beautiful adult children.

I love you my friend Liz, you were a beautiful kind lady and wonderful mum.

RIP my best friend.

Look after those you love guys, and yourself ,always 🙁🌹 x
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That is just awful. My auntie took her life , 49, my father tried so hard to dissuade her from trying again, after her first attempt failed. He beat himself up for years after, please don’t do the same Lala, you couldn’t have done anymore.
It’s so difficult to understand... take care, my heart goes out to you and her family 🧡
 
Newholland said:
That is just awful. My auntie took her life , 49, my father tried so hard to dissuade her from trying again, after her first attempt failed. He beat himself up for years after, please don’t do the same Lala, you couldn’t have done anymore.
It’s so difficult to understand... take care, my heart goes out to you and her family 🧡
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Thank you . My dad did the same when I was 24. I beat myself up for years over that and I just know I won’t do that again this time because I know it wasn’t my fault.

You can’t be with someone 24 hours a day and you can’t stop someone who is so determined to do what they see is their only option.
It’s as simple as that sometimes.
 
Lala said:
Thank you. We told each other we loved each other a lot, especially the last few weeks. I know that she knew I did and I’m glad of that.

Love couldn’t make a difference with this one and I can see that too. It did for the odd moment but I know for the the love of god I couldn’t get her past this and it was just too much for her to carry on with.
Such a terrible terrible waste of a life but I understood her struggle too and how much she was trying.
Bloody awful thing anxiety and panic, especially when it’s relentless. The nastiest of the lot of you ask me. ❤️
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Mental illness is so cruel and as can be seen on this thread, there are so many people who share your pain.

Sending you and Liz's family much love ❤️
 
Lala said:
I know I’m an emotional poster who over shares but that’s just me.
My beautiful friend of 39 years has taken her own life today.
I am utterly devastated, for her and he family. I held her hand and tried to rationalise her thoughts with her in the last few weeks, but just couldn’t get through.

She had never suffered mentally until last month, some strange trigger brought on a huge anxiety and panic reaction that she struggled to cope with day in day out for the last few weeks.

She leaves behind a husband and two beautiful adult children.

I love you my friend Liz, you were a beautiful kind lady and wonderful mum.

RIP my best friend.

Look after those you love guys, and yourself ,always 🙁🌹 x
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That’s incredibly sad but she came into your life and you had 39 beautiful years with her. Lots of happy memories.
 
Very late to this, sorry, Lala. You did what you could, you were a good friend, but in the end we all have our own demons and take our own actions. Was thinking what you'd told us before about your dad, must have brought it all back. So pleased that you felt able to share this, our Tangerine family is always there when someone needs some support, or to vent, or whatever they need.

Love and hugs, you are one heck of a lady. You tried, many would have walked by, putting it in the difficult to handle box. From experience, I personally know you cannot always get through, but, Karen, you can hold your head up high.

RIP Liz
 
Tangerinemoss said:
Very late to this, sorry, Lala. You did what you could, you were a good friend, but in the end we all have our own demons and take our own actions. Was thinking what you'd told us before about your dad, must have brought it all back. So pleased that you felt able to share this, our Tangerine family is always there when someone needs some support, or to vent, or whatever they need.

Love and hugs, you are one heck of a lady. You tried, many would have walked by, putting it in the difficult to handle box. From experience, I personally know you cannot always get through, but, Karen, you can hold your head up high.

RIP Liz
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Thank you Mossy. You are always so very kind ❤️
 
So sorry for your loss, Lala.
Thoughts with your friend's family.
There are no words to ease your, or Liz's suffering.
Whilst things must seem pretty hopeless at the moment, hopefully your memories and love will pull you all through.
RIP Liz.
You're not to blame
Sleep tight x
 
Lala said:
I know I’m an emotional poster who over shares but that’s just me.
My beautiful friend of 39 years has taken her own life today.
I am utterly devastated, for her and he family. I held her hand and tried to rationalise her thoughts with her in the last few weeks, but just couldn’t get through.

She had never suffered mentally until last month, some strange trigger brought on a huge anxiety and panic reaction that she struggled to cope with day in day out for the last few weeks.

She leaves behind a husband and two beautiful adult children.

I love you my friend Liz, you were a beautiful kind lady and wonderful mum.

RIP my best friend.

Look after those you love guys, and yourself ,always 🙁🌹 x
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♥️ There's a saying in German which I've always liked and sums up situations like this. "Ich verstehe die Welt nicht mehr" which literally translates to "I don't understand the world anymore". Sometimes there's simply no answer to something no matter how many questions you pose to yourself.
 
Lala said:
I know I’m an emotional poster who over shares but that’s just me.
My beautiful friend of 39 years has taken her own life today.
I am utterly devastated, for her and he family. I held her hand and tried to rationalise her thoughts with her in the last few weeks, but just couldn’t get through.

She had never suffered mentally until last month, some strange trigger brought on a huge anxiety and panic reaction that she struggled to cope with day in day out for the last few weeks.

She leaves behind a husband and two beautiful adult children.

I love you my friend Liz, you were a beautiful kind lady and wonderful mum.

RIP my best friend.

Look after those you love guys, and yourself ,always 🙁🌹 x
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I knew Liz too. Worked with her on and off for over 10 years. Only found out today as I had to go back into the office. To say it is a shock is an understatement. Gutted.
 
GJJW said:
I knew Liz too. Worked with her on and off for over 10 years. Only found out today as I had to go back into the office. To say it is a shock is an understatement. Gutted.
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Awful Gareth. Just all happened so bloody quickly 😢
 
Lala, that is devastating.
No one knows what goes on in other peoples' minds.
Just try to support her family.
You probably need support yourself also.
Take care, Dave.
 
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