How does a Defeat affect you…

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Paul Gardner No2

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Almost feels like bloody bereavement sometimes. The evening/night is all woe is me, life’s shite, nothing to look forward to… blah blah. This will often carry to the following day.

Obviously after a win I’m running round, clicking my heels and singing from the rooftops.

Mrs G No2 says she doesn’t know whether she’s gonna walk into ‘Night of the Living Dead’ or ‘The Sound of b’stard Music’, and I need to get a fkin grip.

How are you after a defeat?
 
Depends on the manor of defeat for me, Peterborough as an example I ended up really enjoying the game and felt so proud of the effort. Gone away a few times from games vowing not to bother going again….think Burnley under Holloway and getting smashed 3-0, went to Birmingham the week after and won 1-0.
Defeats bring disappointment, frustration and at times anger, Blackburn away in the Prem is probably the most angry I’ve ever been after a game, literally smashed the chair I was sat in into bits
Wins bring joy and again depends on who we’ve beaten elation, and amazing memories.
Can’t be helped knee-jerk reaction of a Footy fan, one minute we’re gunna win the league next we’re finishing min table. I’m just happy to follow Blackpool FC I love them and will never stop, we are who we are and we are where we are what’s the point going OTT
 
Personally I think it affected me much more when I was younger. But now I'm older, I'd say it makes me frustrated, occasionally angry for maybe an hour after the game, but following that not much at all. I tend to get over it pretty quickly if I'm honest. I put it down to experience - the experience over a long period of time of knowing that one swallow doesn't make a summer. The end result of the season i.e. if it's promotion or relegation, those feelings of elation or despair do linger much longer. But individual games, not so much. If anything, the last few games are a great example of why - defeat at Bolton followed by two huge wins, and that followed by a disappointing loss. There just isn't much point getting hung up on individual results or performances.
 
It's what football is all about, the highs and lows, but at the end of the day we all get it off our chest and then look forward to the next game. It's a passion but it isn't life and death, I'd hate to be a Man City fan, winning all the time, the joy in being a football supporter, for me, is the eternal hope and that we're all better football club owners and managers than the people who really are!
 
I can say in all the years of watching us that a defeat has never made me angry . Depending on how it went the worst I feel is bitterly disappointed and sad, and I tend not to want not to talk for a while . And lashing out on social media straight after a defeat would never even enter my head .
 
Last night I was disappointed,depressed,angry all rolled into one, although disappointed would be the key word because I thought we had turned the corner.
You go to bed simmering and wake up a few hours later for work with the doomsday scenario that all the hard work and praise we gained beating Pompey had just been flushed down the shitter.
I'm still bitterly disappointed now because we looked so bang average with all the same mistakes being made all over again,but you don't support BFC for the glory,i will be ready to go again come Saturday.
 
I dont ponder on it to be honest life is to short to let it start causing you stress and getting angry and frustrated, i am a person who thinks can i change anything by any actions i do or say and the answer is NO so why let it get to you
 
Your personal reaction is probably shaped by your level of expectation; my view is that we are an average team that beats some average or injury-affected teams but loses or struggles when we face a well-organised opponent. Accordingly, I don’t get too upset when we lose.

That, and the heart attack I survived in January, have given me a little more perspective than I had previously….
 
Meh - becoming numb to poor formations, starting lineups, lack of consistency, shit pies, weird substitutions, etc.

At least games in L1 are somewhat winnable though, go into games with hope and a prayer that things connect.
 
Not very much these days really! The odd defeat here and there is never nice but I prefer to take a bit more of a long view. We looked jaded last night which is understandable after 2 great wins and expecting a professional football club like Northampton just to turn up and get beat is naive. They had a plan and just about pulled it off. When I was younger I'd be depressed for days after trecking to Mansfield and getting gubbed 4-0 (yes, under McMahon) but I just can't be arsed to feel like that anymore. Football at our level is 40% crap, 40% average, 20% exhilarating.

Getting beat loads, like last season, was just horrible. But this season? Fuck it, we should make the Play Offs. We will lose a fair few more before May 2024.
 
Having followed the Mighty for 50 odd years, I have mellowed with age, and try to keep a perspective. Having seen a lot of the good and bad of life, I feel disappointment, but lots worse is happening to others. I enjoy the highs, but try not to let the lows get to me.

I have lost several friends over the last few years, as most on here have, there is stuff more important than football.
 
It’s the anti-climax following 2 big wins.
Feel gutted today as I thought we would now be on a roll and possibly automatic promotion.
The Play offs seem more realistic now.
 
I’m usually over a loss pretty quick this day but still pissed off about last night.

Bolton was shocking. Was over it by the time left the coach back in Blackpool. Last night I expected an easy win, even though I had a nagging feeling in my head it would just be like us to lose after Saturday.

We’re infuriating. Last season was a lot easier cos we were shit. You expected to lose every game. It’s the hope that kills you now
 
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Disappointed last night but remain philosophical about it, there's more important things in life. Worst I ever felt after a football match was Italia 90. Went to work on a night shift after the penalty shoot out loss & never seen people so flat (including me) although the Bradford turnaround came a close second. A defeat where we've played well & just lost out doesn't grate quite as much I guess.
 
I’ve cultivated nine grandchildren into Seasiders and I now have to manage their disappointment! Takes some doing on occasions. I then have to manage my own but that’s getting easier after 53 years.
 
Years ago with 2 points for a win many successful campaigns were built on winning at home and drawing away. With three points for a win the odd defeat is annoying but not a disaster after two wins.
 
You have to look at it objectively and I always find myself looking at the 3-5-2 formation and thinking why are we playing this over complicated bollocks. This then leads to thinking about who can be the next manager.
 
Honestly doesn't bother me at all, it's a game of football at the end of the day. More important things going on in the world than to be upset over a football result IMO. That includes England results too - some of my mates were distraught when France beat us last year in the quarters, they were pissed off at me that i wasn't more upset!! 😂
 
Noirpool_FC said:
Honestly doesn't bother me at all, it's a game of football at the end of the day. More important things going on in the world than to be upset over a football result IMO. That includes England results too - some of my mates were distraught when France beat us last year in the quarters, they were pissed off at me that i wasn't more upset!! 😂
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Got to be a wind up!
Why come on here if there are more important things to do.
Surely any Footie fan gets upset when their team lose.
 
Reading the comments perhaps she’s right I do need to get a grip 😄 I’m 55 and been following Pool since the age of 9. Never got any easier for me.

Anyway, onwards and upwards! UTMP
 
I'd be fibbing if I said it didn't affect me, of course I don't like to see us lose. Who does?

These days it's just a case of put your shield over your head and walk away singing the defeated lament, a la Zulu. However old I've been I'm not someone who's ever booed the team, and I don't enjoy being in a crowd when it turns. So if it's obvious there's some dissatisfaction coming, those are the occasions I'll go a couple of minutes before the end as I did Tuesday.
 
CGP1 said:
I'd be fibbing if I said it didn't affect me, of course I don't like to see us lose. Who does?

These days it's just a case of put your shield over your head and walk away singing the defeated lament, a la Zulu. However old I've been I'm not someone who's ever booed the team, and I don't enjoy being in a crowd when it turns. So if it's obvious there's some dissatisfaction coming, those are the occasions I'll go a couple of minutes before the end as I did Tuesday.
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Quite right , we shouldn’t boo our own team , when our previous 2 results/ performances have been so good . If we see players not giving 100% effort then i wouldn’t be happy but they certainly tried on Tuesday, just a poor performance.
i am quite fed up after a defeat but then the following morning you realise it’s just a defeat , we have half the season to go & the team are improving as the season progresses. I prefer to be glass half full 🍊
 
Pretty sanguine now after the ups and downs of watching the pool for the past 50 years (it’d be a bit childish to be otherwise.) The only result that REALLY gets to me is when we play North End and losing to them seriously pisses me off. Play off games are very important too obviously but Torquay is but a distant memory…
 
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