So, biggest fear

Lost Seasider said:
Lovely place, hope she has a good time, that said I ended up staying next to the biggest knocking-shop in the city, so hopefully not that good a time (I didn't visit).

It comes down to confidence, once you lose it, you lose it, and if you do, it's a very long way back.
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Address please….only joking😂😂😂😂


However would love to go to Prague but cruises( sea ones that is) don’t go there and that is the only holiday me and Mrs bleach will do these days.
 
Lost Seasider said:
Lovely place, hope she has a good time, that said I ended up staying next to the biggest knocking-shop in the city, so hopefully not that good a time (I didn't visit).

It comes down to confidence, once you lose it, you lose it, and if you do, it's a very long way back.
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Thank you ! She’s on her first solo adult trip abroad, with my granddaughter, am so proud of her 🥰

Ye, I haven’t lost it yet, I’ve lost confidence in other stuff that I’m working on, but not driving yet 👌
 
hertfordseasider said:
I watched some of the first one and it was so horrific I had to turn it off, it was like the worst possible nightmares you could ever have and then multiply by a hundred!
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Natural Born Killers sent me into a 2 year anxiety spiral, so Saw is not for me 😳
 
Dentist, I’m an embarrassment and haven’t been back for years since the last one literally knelt on my chest trying to force a wisdom tooth out.

Losing my wife or kids

Sharks! Absolutely fascinated by them but I’d have a heart attack if ever near one
 
JJpool said:
Underwater would be one of the better deaths...not painful at least. I think burning would be pretty nasty.

But how about this for a haunting way to go.

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Not painful 😳 slowly gasping for breath knowing you've had it. I don't suppose there are many nice deaths but that particular way does give me the creeps.
 
Lala said:
I could not ever handle prison, the trapped ness.
That‘s why I’m forever a good girl ☺️
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Did a study in the role of the chaplaincy in prisons many years ago.

Every door being unlocked and then locked was enough for me. Deprivation of liberty is quite the punishment. You're best continuing being a good girl.

Other than the obvious with something affecting my family - which has just got serious with TSSJr1 now being a police officer and TSSJr2 studying to be a paramedic - but a lot of that is out of my control.

With regards my own behaviour, I was always frightened of my children getting something like an eating disorder or their mental health collapsing. It's why I'm still ridiculously careful with my words when I chastise them. I never turn a blind eye, but I am really careful to separate the action from who they are. I know I don't always achieve it - but I do my best.

For me;

Even though I'm pretty tall - Heights, although I'm alright in planes and tall buildings etc. But I couldn't even look at a phone screen when someone was operating a drone as it made me feel nauseous. I couldn't go up a ladder very high either.
 
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braymarina said:
But its unlikely to happen, very unlikely to happen, so not really something to be feared Lala.
Bit like Preston getting into the prem
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It’s not impossible though, and also, we don’t actually know what we feel when we are dead 😞
But yes, the latter is impossible 😆
 
TSSeasider said:
Did a study in the role of the chaplaincy in prisons many years ago.

Every door being unlocked and then locked was enough for me. Deprivation of liberty is quite the punishment. You're beast continuing being a good girl.

Other than the obvious with something affecting my family - which has just got serious with TSSJr1 now being a police officer and TSSJr2 studying to be a paramedic - but a lot of that is our of my control.

With regards my own behaviour, I was always frightened of my children getting something like an eating disorder or their mental health collapsing. It's why I'm still ridiculously careful with my words when I chastise them. I never turn a blind eye, but I am really careful to separate the action from who they are. I know I don't always achieve it - but I do my best.

For me;

Even though I'm pretty tall - Heights, although I'm alright in planes and tall buildings etc. But I couldn't even look at a phone screen when someone was operating a drone as it made me feel nauseous. I couldn't go up a ladder very high either.
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Oh my, an eating disorder for my kids has been a really big fear of mine. I think it’s one of the hardest mental health issues to overcome. Watched a Louis Thereaux doc on it recently and it really is.

And yes, I am so careful
how I chastise my kids for the same reason. Self esteem and mental health is so fragile. And you can’t rescue anyone from that collapse if they haven’t got it in themselves to come back up.

I’m the same with my dog now, little bugger has the life of Riley.
 
Cuthbert said:
It’s a reoccurring dream based on some truth but not the cramp
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It’s hilarious ! Sorry if that’s the wrong reaction 🤣🤣

I mean if your dad has chased you with a machete in reality, and it’s a rational fear, then bugger !
 
Lala said:
It’s hilarious ! Sorry if that’s the wrong reaction 🤣🤣

I mean if your dad has chased you with a machete in reality, and it’s a rational fear, then bugger !
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He’s long dead but once punched me through a window; put me through an internal walk another time- knocked a radiator off the other side. It’s ironic I miss him; although he didn’t like me supporting Blackpool. Bit of a lunatic tbh; had big issues mostly associated with his military service. I had fear!!!!!
 
Cuthbert said:
He’s long dead but once punched me through a window; put me through an internal walk another time- knocked a radiator off the other side. It’s ironic I miss him; although he didn’t like me supporting Blackpool. Bit of a lunatic tbh; had big issues mostly associated with his military service. I had fear!!!!!
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Oh shit man. People are so complicated, as you say, mainly based on their own experiences.
It doesn’t ever excuse how he treated you though 😞

We miss people close to us, even if they are tw*ts. That’s the empathy within.

And a bit of the habitual Stockholm syndrome grinding its gears.

Sorry for mocking your post. It sounds like heavy shit. Life is heavy shit sometimes. It’s good to analyse and get peace if mind, as long as that doesn't become our life’s work.

Hope you’re ok, sorry if I poked the bear ☹️
 
Spiders
Just no need for them to have 8 legs and what seems like a thousand eyes
And currently being in Australia I'm just waiting for the moment I come across one of those huntsman spiders
Plenty of very venomous spiders here but for some reason it's the huntsman that haunts me !
 
Far north tangerine said:
Spiders
Just no need for them to have 8 legs and what seems like a thousand eyes
And currently being in Australia I'm just waiting for the moment I come across one of those huntsman spiders
Plenty of very venomous spiders here but for some reason it's the huntsman that haunts me !
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Law of averages, you will be fine. But it’s not a totally irrational fear, but you’ll be fine 👌
 
Lala said:
Law of averages, you will be fine. But it’s not a totally irrational fear, but you’ll be fine
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Often wondered why it is that spiders are such a massive phobia for people
Something sinister about them ,
I'm fine with the ones on webs (and some of them are the size of my hand) as they just keep themselves to themselves but the wandering ones instill terror!
I'm fine with the snakes and the other huge bugs here though ,
Beautiful country but it just seems like nature is out to get you 😁
 
Far north tangerine said:
Often wondered why it is that spiders are such a massive phobia for people
Something sinister about them ,
I'm fine with the ones on webs (and some of them are the size of my hand) as they just keep themselves to themselves but the wandering ones instill terror!
I'm fine with the snakes and the other huge bugs here though ,
Beautiful country but it just seems like nature is out to get you 😁
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I was terrified of them years ago. Once stayed in my bedroom for 3 hours when I needed to go out, because there was one on my bedroom door.

Now I’ll pick one up with my bare hands and put it somewhere safe so not to kill them.

I’m not in Australia though, so safety is almost a certainty here.

We are afraid of a lot of things we don’t understand and that move quicker than us !

I am not fine with snakes and never will be, I‘ve had numerous snake dreams. Minging and scary as.
 
Crocodiles and alligators. Probably my biggest animal fears. I avoid. Which is relatively easy in FY2 .
 
Yep… crocodiles, especially those big saltwater crocs. I once went swimming in Lake Turkana decades ago which we could see had small crocs in it. (It’s in Kenya and very remote, look it up).

Soon after I visited the Nairobi Wildlife Park where they had the most enormous saltwater croc in a small pen. I made sure never to get close to open water again.

Snakes, especially the black mamba - highly poisonous, vicious and will strike multiple times, there’s loads everywhere in Kenya.

Hippopotamuses which are very territorial and will bite a canoe in half and you with it.

Basically, all animals which can kill you suddenly without a second thought.

A bit like some boy racers today on our local M-ways videoing themselves weaving through traffic at 120 mph.
 
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hertfordseasider said:
Used to be heights but for some reason I am not bothered by them at all any more.

Driving at night, as I have got older I have found it harder and harder to see properly with all the super bright led lights cars have now and worse in the rain.
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Now you’ve said that I have a new one.

Being a passenger in a car driven by Hertford. At night. In the rain.
 
Wizzerboy said:
Don't give a shit what John says, I've got a fear of anything to do with my eyes.
Even going to the optician, born out of watching a horror film when a lot younger and this bloke ended up getting two spikes driven into his eyes🤢🤮
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remember that but cant think of the films name
 
Archibald Knox said:
Yep… crocodiles, especially those big saltwater crocs. I once went swimming in Lake Turkana decades ago which had small crocs in it. (It’s in Kenya and very remote, look it up).

Soon after I visited the Nairobi Wildlife Park where they had the most enormous saltwater croc in a small pen. I made sure never to get close to open water again.

Snakes, especially the black mamba - highly poisonous, vicious and will strike multiple times, there’s loads everywhere in Kenya.

Hippopotamuses which are very territorial and will bite a canoe in half and you with it.

Basically, all animals which can kill you suddenly without a second thought.

A bit like some boy racers today on our local M-ways videoing themselves weaving through traffic at 120 mph.
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Cliff or similar edges and the fear of falling off.
Won’t go anywhere near even if the view is much better.
We live not far from Alderley Edge and whilst I enjoy walking the area there is a place called Castle Rock which overhangs the Edge and even if I am yards away from it I get seriously nervous especially as Mrs B is the type to walk right up to it with me screaming at her to come back( which she just ignores)
Even when we stayed in a great hotel in Kuala Lumpur with an amazing view from the room which was on one of highest floors( and yes i did take the lift😂) I couldn’t go anywhere near the window as basically it was glass virtually floor to ceiling.
…..and to this day I still don’t know how I managed to cope with that seat almost at the back in the away end at Newcastle United when we played them in the Premiership( I still don’t like any football stands which are steep😂 and there are quite a few🫣)
 
Lala said:
Crocodiles and alligators. Probably my biggest animal fears. I avoid. Which is relatively easy in FY2 .
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I used to have a recurring dream when I was really young about slipping through my bedroom wall into a swamp area which was always misty and there were crocodile men trying to hunt me! Used to scare the bejesus out of me
 
1. Fear that my penis reduction operation somehow goes wrong..... 😉
2. That strangest of fears where you stand at the very edge of something high, there are no safety fences, and you get the 'go on jump, I dare you' voice in your head...!
3. Any food or drink that is blue..
 
Paradiddle_01 said:
2. That strangest of fears where you stand at the very edge of something high, there are no safety fences, and you get the 'go on jump, I dare you' voice in your head...!
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I reckon that #2 fear is more common than we realise. I can get the thought “it would be so easy to climb up on the railings and jump over” and have to walk away with my stomach in knots.

It’s the same if I get close to an unguarded cliff edge. It didn’t trouble me when young and in my 20s when I did a lot of mountain climbing and hill walking, but has since I passed into my 50s.
 
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TSSeasider said:
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Kenya is a wonderful country and well worth a visit, especially in the Highlands around Mt Kenya. But it’s been highly corrupt ever since independence which has been largely hushed up by the West in promoting their sponsorship of a “stable” African democracy.

Do you recall the corrupt investigation of the unsolved murder of Julie Ward in 1988? That went right to the top of the country, and I mean the very top.
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Seeing or hearing my family in pain (includes the dogs, obvs)

Dementia. Having seen my MiL, the old, "aw well, you won't know anything about it", she looked terrified at times.

Being unable to walk. Walking and getting out and about keeps me sane, in a very literal sense.
 
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If you struggle to see driving at night and are happy with that, lets hope your bad eye sight doesnt kill someone. You shouldnt be driving at all.
 
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