Todays news has put real life into perspective for me...

Filet-O-Fish

Filet-O-Fish

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I dont post much on here, only very occasionally. I tend to post more on the Blackpool FC discord page.

I lost my best friend last week. I won't go into the details of his death but it was devastating and happened the same day I attended my Grandma's funeral and I still can't quite understand it all.

He's been a season ticket holder with myself for a while now. He of course sat next to me in the ground. I've already thought about how he won't be next to me next season and I'm trying to come to terms with it.

The news today of Critchley leaving was so shocking that the first thing I did was going to message my friend to tell him the news and get his opinion. Then I suddenly realised I couldn't. That made it all real. He won't be there to discuss all things Tangerine anymore. I can't go to him the moan about our latest loss or talk about how good that away win was that we didn't go to. He won't be sat next to me in the ground anymore. I won't be able to just chat with him during the game, or any time.

I'm not sure why I am even writing this a week after he's passed, or at all really. Maybe I'm just getting it off my chest but I suppose knowing now I can't have a chat with him about today's news just made it even more real.

I suppose its important to keep hold of the important things in life, give your family and friends a call next time you're free because you never know when you might not speak to them again.

Up The Pool.
 
Like you Fil, I read this board more than I post.

I'm sorry to read about the loss of both your friend and Grandma.

I agree that perspective is needed at a time like this. Today's new is a shock because it's unexpected, but it's part of what happens in football. We shouldn't be surprised by it. There are far more serious issues for us all to deal with in life. As a lifelong fan I've learnt to be phlegmatic rather than devastated when fans' favourites leave. Be they players or managers.

Loyalty, as fans, means everything to us, but incomers have transient loyalty. You're right, you have to find time for friends and family while you can.

Be strong mate and remember in football as in life, Que sera sera.
 
Filet-O-Fish said:
I dont post much on here, only very occasionally. I tend to post more on the Blackpool FC discord page.

I lost my best friend last week. I won't go into the details of his death but it was devastating and happened the same day I attended my Grandma's funeral and I still can't quite understand it all.

He's been a season ticket holder with myself for a while now. He of course sat next to me in the ground. I've already thought about how he won't be next to me next season and I'm trying to come to terms with it.

The news today of Critchley leaving was so shocking that the first thing I did was going to message my friend to tell him the news and get his opinion. Then I suddenly realised I couldn't. That made it all real. He won't be there to discuss all things Tangerine anymore. I can't go to him the moan about our latest loss or talk about how good that away win was that we didn't go to. He won't be sat next to me in the ground anymore. I won't be able to just chat with him during the game, or any time.

I'm not sure why I am even writing this a week after he's passed, or at all really. Maybe I'm just getting it off my chest but I suppose knowing now I can't have a chat with him about today's news just made it even more real.

I suppose its important to keep hold of the important things in life, give your family and friends a call next time you're free because you never know when you might not speak to them again.

Up The Pool.
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Hey, you posted because you had the urge to and that’s good.

Good to put a clear perfective on things and good to get things off your chest.

I really feel for you at what must be a heartbreaking time.
Keep going, but keep remembering , and always let it out.
Sorry for your very sad losses ☹️🌹🌹🌹
 
Filet-O-Fish said:
I dont post much on here, only very occasionally. I tend to post more on the Blackpool FC discord page.

I lost my best friend last week. I won't go into the details of his death but it was devastating and happened the same day I attended my Grandma's funeral and I still can't quite understand it all.

He's been a season ticket holder with myself for a while now. He of course sat next to me in the ground. I've already thought about how he won't be next to me next season and I'm trying to come to terms with it.

The news today of Critchley leaving was so shocking that the first thing I did was going to message my friend to tell him the news and get his opinion. Then I suddenly realised I couldn't. That made it all real. He won't be there to discuss all things Tangerine anymore. I can't go to him the moan about our latest loss or talk about how good that away win was that we didn't go to. He won't be sat next to me in the ground anymore. I won't be able to just chat with him during the game, or any time.

I'm not sure why I am even writing this a week after he's passed, or at all really. Maybe I'm just getting it off my chest but I suppose knowing now I can't have a chat with him about today's news just made it even more real.

I suppose its important to keep hold of the important things in life, give your family and friends a call next time you're free because you never know when you might not speak to them again.

Up The Pool.
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Just remember, you're not alone. We're all seasiders here.

I'm not going to pretend it gets easier or less painful, but the pain does get less frequent.

Lost my dad (best mate) over a decade ago about a year before the promotion to the prem. Even now he's still my first thought when something happens with the mighty. A good win, a shocking loss, a promotion, a manager departed.

I sincerely hope you find someone new to share the daily BFC related gripe with... and I've no doubt your mate will live on in your memory.
 
Filet-O-Fish said:
I dont post much on here, only very occasionally. I tend to post more on the Blackpool FC discord page.

I lost my best friend last week. I won't go into the details of his death but it was devastating and happened the same day I attended my Grandma's funeral and I still can't quite understand it all.

He's been a season ticket holder with myself for a while now. He of course sat next to me in the ground. I've already thought about how he won't be next to me next season and I'm trying to come to terms with it.

The news today of Critchley leaving was so shocking that the first thing I did was going to message my friend to tell him the news and get his opinion. Then I suddenly realised I couldn't. That made it all real. He won't be there to discuss all things Tangerine anymore. I can't go to him the moan about our latest loss or talk about how good that away win was that we didn't go to. He won't be sat next to me in the ground anymore. I won't be able to just chat with him during the game, or any time.

I'm not sure why I am even writing this a week after he's passed, or at all really. Maybe I'm just getting it off my chest but I suppose knowing now I can't have a chat with him about today's news just made it even more real.

I suppose its important to keep hold of the important things in life, give your family and friends a call next time you're free because you never know when you might not speak to them again.

Up The Pool.
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Good post. Take heart from the fact that although we all argue like blazes on here, we're all still tangerine. Up the Pool.
 
Filet-O-Fish said:
I dont post much on here, only very occasionally. I tend to post more on the Blackpool FC discord page.

I lost my best friend last week. I won't go into the details of his death but it was devastating and happened the same day I attended my Grandma's funeral and I still can't quite understand it all.

He's been a season ticket holder with myself for a while now. He of course sat next to me in the ground. I've already thought about how he won't be next to me next season and I'm trying to come to terms with it.

The news today of Critchley leaving was so shocking that the first thing I did was going to message my friend to tell him the news and get his opinion. Then I suddenly realised I couldn't. That made it all real. He won't be there to discuss all things Tangerine anymore. I can't go to him the moan about our latest loss or talk about how good that away win was that we didn't go to. He won't be sat next to me in the ground anymore. I won't be able to just chat with him during the game, or any time.

I'm not sure why I am even writing this a week after he's passed, or at all really. Maybe I'm just getting it off my chest but I suppose knowing now I can't have a chat with him about today's news just made it even more real.

I suppose its important to keep hold of the important things in life, give your family and friends a call next time you're free because you never know when you might not speak to them again.

Up The Pool.
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Feel exactly the same whenever there's big news, first person I'd text would be my Dad, he was old and short sighted and I'd usually get something incomprehensible back half an hour later but still.
 
Filet-O-Fish said:
I dont post much on here, only very occasionally. I tend to post more on the Blackpool FC discord page.

I lost my best friend last week. I won't go into the details of his death but it was devastating and happened the same day I attended my Grandma's funeral and I still can't quite understand it all.

He's been a season ticket holder with myself for a while now. He of course sat next to me in the ground. I've already thought about how he won't be next to me next season and I'm trying to come to terms with it.

The news today of Critchley leaving was so shocking that the first thing I did was going to message my friend to tell him the news and get his opinion. Then I suddenly realised I couldn't. That made it all real. He won't be there to discuss all things Tangerine anymore. I can't go to him the moan about our latest loss or talk about how good that away win was that we didn't go to. He won't be sat next to me in the ground anymore. I won't be able to just chat with him during the game, or any time.

I'm not sure why I am even writing this a week after he's passed, or at all really. Maybe I'm just getting it off my chest but I suppose knowing now I can't have a chat with him about today's news just made it even more real.

I suppose its important to keep hold of the important things in life, give your family and friends a call next time you're free because you never know when you might not speak to them again.

Up The Pool.
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You want to get it off your chest, we're here for you 👍 Lost a few people in the last 12 months, realising you can't talk to them is really hard, when it hits home. For me , the connection to where I was brought up, with people with a common history, talking absolute bollox on here, has kept me sane through some pretty hard times, I hope it can be the same for you, Filet. Please keep posting
 
Filet-O-Fish said:
I dont post much on here, only very occasionally. I tend to post more on the Blackpool FC discord page.

I lost my best friend last week. I won't go into the details of his death but it was devastating and happened the same day I attended my Grandma's funeral and I still can't quite understand it all.

He's been a season ticket holder with myself for a while now. He of course sat next to me in the ground. I've already thought about how he won't be next to me next season and I'm trying to come to terms with it.

The news today of Critchley leaving was so shocking that the first thing I did was going to message my friend to tell him the news and get his opinion. Then I suddenly realised I couldn't. That made it all real. He won't be there to discuss all things Tangerine anymore. I can't go to him the moan about our latest loss or talk about how good that away win was that we didn't go to. He won't be sat next to me in the ground anymore. I won't be able to just chat with him during the game, or any time.

I'm not sure why I am even writing this a week after he's passed, or at all really. Maybe I'm just getting it off my chest but I suppose knowing now I can't have a chat with him about today's news just made it even more real.

I suppose its important to keep hold of the important things in life, give your family and friends a call next time you're free because you never know when you might not speak to them again.

Up The Pool.
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A very touching well written read there F. O. F. Puts many things into perspective. I have aged parents, not very well friends and try to make the most of every visit, laugh, meal, memory.
Thankyou for writing what you did and all the best for the new season and whatever life has ahead. God bless
 
Filet-O-Fish said:
Thank you all for your kind messages.
I'll be sure to be much more active on here with fellow Seasiders. 👍
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Fillet, as they say pal, it's good to talk, and sometimes life kicks you in the nether nether regions and it's difficult to cope with.

So sorry to hear about your losses, but always live for today as tomorrow is not promised to any of us.

All the best and please post more often.
 
Well said. S
Filet-O-Fish said:
I dont post much on here, only very occasionally. I tend to post more on the Blackpool FC discord page.

I lost my best friend last week. I won't go into the details of his death but it was devastating and happened the same day I attended my Grandma's funeral and I still can't quite understand it all.

He's been a season ticket holder with myself for a while now. He of course sat next to me in the ground. I've already thought about how he won't be next to me next season and I'm trying to come to terms with it.

The news today of Critchley leaving was so shocking that the first thing I did was going to message my friend to tell him the news and get his opinion. Then I suddenly realised I couldn't. That made it all real. He won't be there to discuss all things Tangerine anymore. I can't go to him the moan about our latest loss or talk about how good that away win was that we didn't go to. He won't be sat next to me in the ground anymore. I won't be able to just chat with him during the game, or any time.

I'm not sure why I am even writing this a week after he's passed, or at all really. Maybe I'm just getting it off my chest but I suppose knowing now I can't have a chat with him about today's news just made it even more real.

I suppose its important to keep hold of the important things in life, give your family and friends a call next time you're free because you never know when you might not speak to them again.

Up The Pool.
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Well said. Sorry for your loss.
 
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